In readings with clients, I often speak about the fact that our lifetime is planned before our birth into each incarnation. We, with the help of spirit guides and in the all-knowing place of Heaven (or the life between lives), decide what lessons we would like to learn and how we can spend the lifetime wisely. Earth as a physical experience can provide learning opportunities much like a “classroom.” We come in our Earthly classroom born into some sort of a family group and we wind up exactly where we are supposed to be to have the childhoods we need to set us up for the huge challenges ahead. Lessons, by definition, tend to not be easy, but we decide the difficulty ourselves. We do have free will choices to make in how to get from one learning experience to another, but we tend to do all of the pre-arranged tasks we planned for. Our spirit guides who remain in Heaven while we are here help us with knowing where the big transition points are.
I also often refer to this earthly learning experience as a grand theater with many scenes and acts. You are the star, but you have a whole cast of supporting actors and major and minor characters to help move the story of your life along. The other thing you will absolutely not be able to avoid is the role of the villain.
Someone must be the villain. Think about it. In every good story that affects us, that evokes learning and change in our soul, there is tension and high drama brought on by how the villain(s) interact with the main cast of characters and/or the heroes/heroines.
The villain in our stories can come early in life - maybe it’s one or both of our parents, maybe it’s a different family member, or maybe the villain comes later in the form of a spouse or a so-called friend. Maybe the villain is a boss at your job or a professor in college. Back-stabbing, treachery, betrayal, hatred, jealousy, physical/mental/emotional abuse are all examples that can result in interactions with your villains.
What to do?
I remember a particularly poignant time in which I was affected by a villain in my own life. After much self-reflection and also a dose of self-forgiveness I can tell you without a doubt that I contributed to the negative consequences that I experienced at the hand of this villain. The situation at the time seemed brutally unfair. I wanted to burn this person’s house down - not that I ever would have or even had a plan because I didn’t, but I sucked it up, had literal nightmares for years, and tried my best to make sense of it all. But for a time I really wanted vengeance. This is a normal human emotion that should not be acted on.
Why?
Because simply *being* the villain takes a serious toll on the person in that role.
Think about every movie you have watched. What happens to the villain in the end? There is no need to go after that person.
I would argue that it is wise to thank your villains. Thank them for the meanness and vitriol they carry every day to help bring about the conditions where you learned the most. It’s a SOUL gift to help you learn. Maybe the villain changed your direction in life into the path you were supposed to be on. That’s what happened in my case, and I know for a fact that had this person not intervened I would’ve stayed on the imaginary path I thought belonged to me. It was temporary and I needed to shift. And so, I shifted.
When you get to a place where you can thank your villains, you have arrived! This critical awareness and understanding of the big picture is necessary for contentment and a feeling of control. The hardest part for me (and the most gratifying) was finally figuring out that on a soul-level, I’ve been in control the entire time.
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